How to be successful on online dating sites
Women: Learn the art of weeding out Women are often encouraged from childhood onward to be as likable as possible. This can actually work against us when placing an online profile.
I tell all my single girlfriends who are looking for a man online and frustrated with wading through boringly similar (or offensively forward) responses: don’t be too likeable.
for me its cuddles.’ This might sound really cute and it would be once you have created some intimacy but its not a good starter as it makes you seem intense and maybe a stalker!
Conversely a male friend of mine was asked to read a specific book and tell her his opinion of it.
You are almost guaranteed to fail if you write to a woman on a dating site telling her “You are gorgeous/sexy/hot.” Sorry to break it to you, but this kind of e-mail makes you seem generic and boring.
Most reasonably attractive women with online dating profiles receive dozens of those kind of responses per week—in some cases, dozens per day.
A lot of my single friends moan to me about how hard it is to date online.
I’m not suggesting you choose someone you don’t find attractive—instead, choose attractive women with whom you seem to have something in common.
Remember, there’s no such thing as an abstract “perfect woman.” But there is a woman who may be perfect for you (either long-term or short-term).
The secret to finding that perfection is by emphasizing similar beliefs and interests.
However, if you choose to write to women who share your interests, you gain many opportunities for intriguing opening lines.
Set your search parameters to find a woman who enjoys the same authors, TV shows, movies or hobbies as you.